It walks in and out of our lives on a regular basis. And it can easily walk all over us unless we take action.
While we may have different thresholds for what situations trigger stress, we approach these situations similarly: We generally choose one of three main approaches to coping with the stressful situation: This is the most active and direct coping response, and it can be very beneficial.
Active coping is always better than avoidanceand resolving the situation or problem eliminates that stress moving forward.
However, it can also backfire if we become too focused on having control over our environments, attempt to control something that is actually beyond our control, or engage in self-blame for our inability or failure to control something.
That generally means either shutting down, or opening up.
Shutting down includes denial or suppression of unwanted thoughts and feelings. We may try to distract ourselves, or begin avoiding things that relate to the stressor. Procrastination is one common example. Opening up involves actually expressing the distressing emotions, to a supportive friend or family member, in a journal, or in therapy.
Opening up can be helpful because it releases tension catharsisand may lead to a better understanding of the problem insight. Emotion-focused coping is beneficial when we have little actual control over the situation; however, it can also be harmful if it keeps us from taking necessary action.
It is generally an ongoing process of developing resources personal, social, material that can serve as a buffer against stress. Examples include cultivating a network of social support, spirituality, and a sense of self including varied roles so that stress related to one role is balanced out by positive experiences in another role.
Do you find yourself relying most often on one of these approaches, or do you use all three? What have you noticed about when an approach is, and is not helpful?Dealing with Situational Stress. Submitted by Mike Lau on May 2 Conflict resolution; Stress Management Strategy #1: Avoid unnecessary stress.
Not all stress can be avoided, and it’s certainly not healthy to avoid a situation that needs to be addressed. Beyond a take-charge approach and a positive attitude, you can reduce stress. Reframed: The Journal of Self-Reg Most Recent Journal: The Challenge of Understanding the Full Complexity of Stress and Stress-Reactivity Stuart Shanker DPhil and Travis Francis HBASc.
This approach considers not just the manner in which multiple stresses impinge on and magnify each other, but also the bi-directional relationship. How to Reframe Your Stress and Anxiety Into Productivity.
began looking at how we react to the idea of stress, she found that people who reframed their This fatalistic approach holds you.
Cognitive reframing is a time-honored, psychologist-recommended method of looking at things in ways that create less stress and promote a greater sense of peace and control.
If you don't already use this stress relief strategy regularly, you may want to consider it. Dealing with the Killer Called Stress. By Captain Paul Watson on Wednesday August 19th, I had nothing, but there was no stress. I simply reframed the insecurity of my position into an adventurous experience.
I treated every job as a My approach has always been acceptance. And amazingly I am still alive and still free.
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This approach acknowledges that it is extremely difficult to change negative interpretations of a stressor during the emotional turmoil, but suggests that proper preparation BEFOREHAND can arm the person with effectively reframed thoughts.